SoulCare Marriage Conference 2022

On Demand

Marc Montanye—Intro

  • Hope is theme for this conference as well as building a culture in your home.

  • TED talk style of 10-14 minutes talks, plus conversation and relationship with others in Triad discussion groups; be courageous.

Daniel Keiser—Sex & Intimacy

  • Identifies the key “Lies We Believe About Sex”

  • Why are there so many? Why do we believe them?

  • Discusses the impact of pornography on our culture and the fact that we do not talk about sex as a culture.

Joe Slabaugh (1st session)—Time: A Couple’s Greatest Resource

  • Time is a couple’s greatest resource to build their marriage.

  • Time is an asset, a non-renewable commodity.

  • Provides tips on how to maximize our time.

Tyler & Sarah Graham—Financial Peace

  • You need to get on the same page as your spouse about money.

  • Financial roommates vs financial unity

  • Need to have honest conversations about:

    • What is happening now, current finances?

    • Where you want to be and why?

    • How do you get there?

Keaton Kliener (1st session)—Identity

  • Identity: imagine it as a physical object that you can give someone, they hold it and power over us. We give it to many people but most often to our spouse.

  • Insecurity: our emotional stability is based upon someone else, the person we’ve given ourselves and our power to. We need to look at what’s under the surface. Often it is self-centered motivations.

  • Identity in others vs. Identity in God (Saul & David as examples)

Marc Montanye (1st session)—Gottman 6-Hours a Week to a Better Marriage

  • What makes for a happy marriage? (list of 10 things)

  • Gottman’s 6-Hours a Week to a Better Marriage explained.

Marc Montanye (2nd session)—Spiritual Warfare

  • Our Adversary, Satan, is against marriage and hope.

  • We must pray aggressive warfare prayers—because it is powerful and with it we win. It is offensive (vs defensive) prayer.

  • Six key parts to this prayer:

    • Give glory to God

    • Give thanks for Jesus, his Son

    • Pray in the name of Jesus

    • Claim authority in Christ by Christ and ask for what we need

    • Ask for an indwelling of the Holy Spirit

    • Give thanksgiving

Joe Slabaugh (2nd session)—Who Is in Your Boat?

  • Every marriage goes through storms: sometimes regular struggles, and sometimes tragedy/trauma.

  • 69% of marriages have conflicts that are never resolved.

  • Who is in your boat in the storms?

    • God is our refuge and strength—Ps. 46:1-3

    • God is in control and rules over the storms.

  • Is Jesus in your boat? Where is Jesus in your marriage?

Keaton Kliener (2nd session)—Healthy Communication in Marriage

  • Only fix one conflict at a time

  • Three key steps, must happen in this order:

  • Validation—hard to do, often skipped

    • Apologies and forgiveness

    • Finding a solution